• The Father's Table

If God is your Father what does that mean for you as His child? Does that shape how you treat neighbors, spouse, children, and life? If you name the name of Christ then the way you live life should honor God. We get great training in honoring God by the way we honor our father and mother. In the Bible, Exodus 20:12 we find the given commandment, "Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee." As God's people, we are commanded to honor our father and mother. But what does honor mean? In Hebrew, the word is "Kabad" which means be heavy, be weighty, be grievous, be hard, be rich, be honourable, be glorious, be burdensome, be honoured.

"Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee."

To give honor means to give importance/weight to something. When something holds weight or is heavy it seems to swallow up all of your attention. Like a sudden death in the family, getting that job you hoped for, or your wedding day.

When it comes to God, when we give honor, we give weight to Him. We give extreme reverence, importance, and esteem to Him. He is the truth, the light, and the way as a good father should be.

When I was coming up one of the reasons we obeyed because we knew our behavior was a reflection of my father and mother, their union, and my household. When we obey our parents we are showing them great honor. And in turn showing honor to God. Dad and mom communicated their wishes for how we are to conduct ourselves and we complied, not always willingly.

That's why I call on godly men, we MUST live lives that honor our parents and most of all our Father. This instruction paints a beautiful picture to youthful minds about obedience, honor and respect. By demonstrating a lifestyle of honor to God, neighbors, spouses, and children will in turn do the same by God's grace. Why? Because they will see obedience, sincerity, compassion, and righteousness. Our Father in heaven exudes judgement, equity, integrity and love; we as His offspring in the Spirit should do the same.

  • The Father's Table

Back in 1993, Charles Barkley released a commercial ad that I believe is still relevant today, especially in the digital age we live in. Below is a link to the commercial:

'I'm not a role model... Just because I dunk a basketball doesn't mean I should raise your kids." - Charles Barkley

I agree with this statement wholeheartedly. Charles goes on to say this: "Parents should be role models." He nails it.

If you look at athletes today, their "followers" are in the millions. Like it or not, sports stars have influence. They can tweet or post something and within seconds get reactions to it. If the followers like a certain post, the athlete may continue to post more of the same stuff, forming even more of a connection between the athlete and their followers. I'm thoroughly convinced that a fan might be more vulnerable to following their hero blindly, and kids are no exception. They may even be more impressionable. If a young child with a father as a role model can be heavily influenced by sports stars, how much more might this apply to child without a father in the home? This is what Charles was getting at in his message.

Children mimic what they see. How many times have you heard something like, "You got that from your mother/father." I don't know why this is but sports players have been given a burden of being role models to young children. Why? Athletes have to walk, talk, and act a certain way and if they depart from the given framework they are criticized. But why? They are athletes, and like Charles says, they are paid to play a sport - not to be role models.

But therein lies the problem, maybe parents have given their kids over to these athletes. Maybe parents have encouraged this by tuning into every game, buying the merchandise, and investing in season tickets, etc. There is nothing wrong with admiring someone's athletic skill, but when does one depart from admiration and embrace full allegiance?

To the parents, there has to be a line drawn somewhere. If you are going to watch someone because you like the sport, that's fine. However, it is important to be mindful of when that influence bleeding over into other areas of your life. Parents should be the ultimate earthly role models for their kids; they should model character, dignity, purity, love, and in my view, godliness. If your child looks more like what they see in the media, we have a problem.

  • The Father's Table

A good father is important not only to his biological children, adopted children, his job, society, but primarily his wife. The woes of not having a good father run deep. But for the sake of this article we will be touching on a deception that has gained traction on social media and has become the norm but when I was growing up these things were not so. As I grow in an understanding of what God says about the family I've come to understand this: God, Christ, Man, Woman, Children. God created a vehicle for children to come into life on earth, that vehicle is called marriage. When a marriage is established the man and woman make a covenant under God that they will be bound together for life.

This shows a remarkable picture of the harmony between a man and a woman working as one, both fulfilling their god ordained roles in life. Dating or living together in the same place is not the same. HEREIN LIES IS THE DECEPTION!

In today's culture the standard has changed. Unfortunately, we have a lot of parents that are not married to each other raising their children. (Note: I am referring to unmarried folk.) To add insult to injury it has become glorified and some cases numbing in society. It's troubling to see the exaltation of mothers and fathers disassociated from the confines of marriage. (Husbands and Wives) Often when you browse social media you may see a father doing his daughter's hair in the bathroom mirror singing songs. But something is missing... Where is the mother? Where is the family? Sometimes these pictures come with a hashtag or caption that acknowledges how awesome the father is. Fathers are awesome, no disputing that but the deception is that it's okay to be a father WITHOUT being a husband first. This is not okay and it's out of order. God's order is that the man and woman must be married, become one. The children have the blessing to see their creators in harmony together. I hope culture hasn't forgotten this and developed the attitude of neglecting commitment and responsibility. In my view, you need to be a husband first and then be promoted to a father. Sadly, some men berate their child's mother and vice versa which paints a picture of disunity. It's a bad look. There need's to be a establishment of God's order and it need to start in the home the way God organized it.