Fathers Podcast

Stories - Erik

admin — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 13:07:50 +0000

Erik, an attender to a fathers group, shares some of his experiences and learnings.

Stories - Marti part 3

admin — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 02:17:47 +0000

Marti, wife of Chuck and mother of four, continues to share some of her experiences and learnings.

Stories - Derek

admin — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 20:58:09 +0000

Derek, an attender to a fathers group, shares some of his experiences and learnings.

The Big Ideas

admin — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 21:58:45 +0000

Not a very fancy title but it gets the point across. We spend this cast summing up the “main ideas” that encompass the thoughts behind Fathers.

There isn’t an endless list of general ideas of how to be a better father…which is good because now you know all concepts. The challenge comes in implementing them in a way that becomes a part of your lifestyle and adapting to the changing family.

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Stories - Marti part 2

admin — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 21:16:46 +0000

Marti, wife of Chuck and mother of four, continues to share some of her experiences and learnings.

Family Mission

admin — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 04:37:10 +0000

How many different influences are reaching out to you and your family every day? Add up the bosses, friends, teachers, advertisements, social activities, etc. and you end up with a lot of “voices” (some good…some bad) that can weaken the cohesion of the family unit.

Distraction and detachment are two of your top enemies.

In this cast we talk about how developing a “Family Mission” with your wife will help strengthen the family and provide some structure to help in navigating the tension between the family priorities and the outside world.

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Love Languages Part 3

admin — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 16:48:39 +0000

While love languages can be very helpful in our marriage they can also be applied to the relationships we have with our kids. We finish this series by talking about how to use love languages with our kids

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Love Languages Part 2

admin — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 23:32:19 +0000

Knowing how love languages work is different than acting on that knowledge to revolutionize your marriage. While that seems like a given, most people aren’t able to go from knowing to doing and so their relationships don’t change for the better.

In this cast we talk about moving beyond the initial awkwardness (and possible failure) to having love languages impact our lives.

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Love Languages Part 1

admin — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 04:29:40 +0000

In this series we talk about the different ways people give and receive love and how that impacts relationships. This cast focuses specifically on the interactions between a wife and husband.

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Family Traditions

admin — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:49:08 +0000

Family vacations, birthdays, dinners and holidays. Depending on your childhood those words could bring up happy memories or nothing at all because you’ve blocked them all out and replaced them with episodes of The Simpsons or Seinfeld.

As we talk about today…making traditions is an easy way to get the family engaged and create lasting memories.

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Intimacy Part 3

admin — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 15:08:43 +0000

We conclude the conversation on sex and intimacy by asking questions like: What was God thinking? With all the differences between genders what did he have in mind?

You’ll probably want to listen to the previous intimacy casts before starting this one.

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Intimacy Part 2

admin — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 12:52:52 +0000

We continue the conversation on sex by getting into the perception and expectation differences between the genders.

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Stories - Dan

admin — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 01:52:02 +0000

Dan, an attender to a fathers group, shares some of his experiences and learnings.

Intimacy Part 1

admin — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 02:22:11 +0000

In this series we talk about the role of sex in a marriage. As Chuck points out in this cast, our perceptions and expectations of sex can be very easily influenced by the culture we live in.

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Stories - Justin

admin — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 02:56:49 +0000

Justin, an attender to a fathers group, shares some of his experiences and learnings.

Calendaring

admin — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 04:15:27 +0000

In this cast we talk about how having (and maintaining) a family calendar can ensure that the family schedule reflects priorities as opposed to the schedule causing the priorities. Scheduling only gets more complex as the kids get older so having one calendar that sets the agenda is extremely helpful.

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Stories - Marti part 1

admin — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 03:44:37 +0000

Marti, wife of Chuck and mother of four, shares some of her experiences and learnings.

Creative Family Time

admin — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 12:57:49 +0000

In this cast we talk about taking the time to create unique family memories and the tension that comes with balancing family time and the world outside the house.

Creative Family Time doesn’t have to be expensive…and something is better than nothing. Camping in the living room, game night and creative writing are just a few examples of experiences your kids will delight in and the effort is completely worth the time.

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Stories - Jeff

admin — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 15:37:06 +0000

Jeff, an attender to a fathers group, shares some of his experiences and learnings.

Gratitude Part 2

admin — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 15:17:34 +0000

In this cast we talk about some of the barriers that get in the way of us working towards being grateful. You may be surprised to hear Chuck talk about how we need to fully forgive others (and how we can do it) so that we can be completely grateful. You’ll probably want to listen to the first Gratitude cast before starting this one.

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Gratitude Part 1

admin — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 18:52:44 +0000

How does gratitude relate to being a better father? Well, as you may already know based on experience, what we say isn’t absorbed by our family nearly as much as what we do. So by learning how to have an attitude of gratefulness our thoughts will naturally flow into our actions…which are the cues our family react to the most.

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Comings and Goings Part 4

admin — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 18:09:28 +0000

We finish out the conversation on comings and going by talking about the daily rhythms we can have with our kids. Positive routines have a way of deepening relationships so learning how to take the time to invest in your kids every day is very advantageous.

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Comings and Goings Part 3

admin — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 15:51:40 +0000

In this cast we talk about how our relationship with our wife can be positively affected if we develop the habit of waking up and going to bed together.

Getting on the same schedule can be a challenge (especially if you have completely different habits) but it will open up more quality time and strengthen the marriage.

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Website Content

admin — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 15:35:36 +0000

This is a heads up for the subscribers who haven’t had a chance to check out the website. There are all kinds of different content to help individuals and groups.

But since you’re reading about it on the site (and not hearing about it through your podcast feed) then you don’t have to do anything else…you’re already here! Good job!

Comings and Goings Part 2

admin — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 20:27:33 +0000

Not every day starts and ends at home…especially when we travel. We continue the conversation on comings and goings by talking about how we can start each day and how to stay connected when we’re away from the family.

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Stories - Dave

admin — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 16:35:35 +0000

Dave, an attender to a father group, shares some of his experiences and learnings.

Comings and Goings Part 1

admin — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 04:20:20 +0000

Depending on your schedule, the time that you get to spend with your wife (extreme mornings and extreme evenings) can be at the worst parts of a day. How do you show your wife that she is your number one relationship?

In this series we talk about how saying hello and goodbye (and how we do it) has huge consequences in the relationships we have with our wife and kids.

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Prayer

admin — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 12:52:44 +0000

Prayer with our wife and kids is a great practice that will bring us closer to God and make for a stronger family. Being the “family spiritual leader” can seem overwhelming but breaking that concept into manageable habits (start with meals and bedtime) is a great start.

Taking the time to openly pray with one another will vocalize the hopes, concerns, needs and wants of each family member while connecting you closer to each other and God.

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Stories - Christy and Abby

admin — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 16:28:22 +0000

Christy and Abby, daughters of Chuck, share the experiences they’ve had because of Fathers.

Starting a Fathers Group

admin — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 15:04:34 +0000

We’ve mentioned in the previous casts that the best way to grow is to get connected with a group of other fathers for encouragement and accountability. In this cast we talk about how to set up a Fathers group and what it can look like.

Becoming a better husband and father takes time, effort and occasionally being harassed by friends who knows what you want to do and what you’re capable of becoming. There are achievements (finally had a Date Night!) and setbacks (got way too angry at my kid) and having a community for support tremendously helps in the journey.

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Stories - Aaron

admin — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 03:32:55 +0000

Aaron, father of three and long time attender to a father group, shares some of his experiences and learnings.

Club Time Part 2

admin — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 17:36:46 +0000

We continue the conversation about Club Time in this cast by getting into more specifics.

Learning how to enjoy the uniqueness of each of your kids and the kinds of Club Time they want is priceless. If you can’t figure out how to talk to your three year old or teenager we cover that too. Not surprisingly you can use similar techniques for both age groups!

You’ll probably want to listen to the first Club Time cast before starting this one.

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Club Time Part 1

admin — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 05:17:11 +0000

Spending time as a whole family is important but it’s not the best way to build into each kid. Which is where the idea of “Club Time” comes in.

Club Time is about consistent one on one experiences with you and each child…doing something they want to do. Think of it as Date Night but with one of your kids…except the chances of having to watch a chick flick are lower…and you probably won’t have to shave.

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Are you using Internet Explorer 6?

admin — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 14:51:47 +0000

If you are using IE6…you probably aren’t seeing where you can play or download the podcast, subscribe in itunes, or leave comments.

All of those buttons are in the blue bar at the bottom of podcast posts.

We recommend at least upgrading to Internet Explorer 7…but if you’re feeling adventurous you can always jump to Version 8.

Firefox is a great browser and Chrome is the new kid on the block

Date Night Part 2

admin — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 19:56:51 +0000

We continue the conversation about “Date Night” in this cast and introduce the idea of “War Council”.

An issue for all of us is that there can be a lot going on with our kids and it becomes easy for them to become the main topics for Date Night. While figuring out how to make sure your kid keeps his diaper on all night is a very high priority (a manageable amount of laundry is desirable) that topic doesn’t belong in Date Night.

“War Council” (yes…it is an aggressive name) is time that the two of you can take to walk through those issues and figure out together how to handle them.

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Date Night Part 1

admin — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 12:54:10 +0000

This cast talks about the idea of setting up a consistent and frequent “Date Night” for your wife and you to spend time being a romantic couple. It can be very easy to fall into a strictly “team” relationship since what can be most pressing is taking care of the kids. Date Night helps to avoid that.

Carving out time for dates is a little bit more complicated with kids in the picture but as Chuck talks about…if he can figure out how to do it…ANYONE can do it…and it is completely worth the time and effort!

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Fathers Podcast Intro

admin — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 15:28:42 +0000

Why should a guy take the time to become a better father and husband? What are the things he should do? We dig into those kind of questions and more by drawing from Chuck’s 20 plus years of experience in leading fathers groups.

The Fathers Podcast is all about basic fathering ideas that we can take and adapt to our particular family situation. There is no such thing as a perfect father but making tiny adjustments in the ways we interact with our families can have a huge impact in the long run.

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